You really want to get some help for your marriage.
But your husband? Not so much.
And, honestly, I don’t blame him. There are a lot of very valid reasons why he wouldn’t feel comfortable with it.
We can just assume that he’s a really awesome guy but, for whatever reason, it’s just not at the top of his list right now.
So let’s focus on you for a moment.
You are a conscientious Baha’i woman who really values progress in your life- who doesn’t just want to just sit back and let her marriage continue down the path it’s currently on.
Because, honestly, you aren’t that happy with the way it is now.
But you feel stuck.
And a little hopeless.
Because you are craving emotional closeness with your man! You want to be able to bring some joy and fun back into your marriage as well as solve those pesky issues like money, sex and housework (and in-laws and parenting and spiritual growth and time management etc etc).
So you sit down and try to connect with him and you get…
Silence. Withdrawal. Anger.
And then he wants to get physically intimate with you and you’re like…. Huh?!?!?!
Believe me, I get it.
After years and years of trying to figure out my own husband and then having the bounty of coaching other men, I’ve finally arrived at some pretty darn fascinating discoveries about the male brain.
And I want to share it all with you.
Because I know that you want him to:
open up and share his vulnerable feelings with you.
discuss issues with you without blowing up (or shutting down).
listen to you without trying to solve every.little.thing.
initiate the communication when a problem arises.
appreciate how hard you are working for your family.
You want to be those intimate friends and helpmates that ‘Abdu’l-Baha talks about.
You want to feel like you are back on a team again.
Well, my friend- take my hand and let’s get you there.
This is how it works:
2. Get started with creating the marriage you desire!
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When I was first considering working with Janna, I was worried about somehow being disloyal to my husband by talking to someone else about issues that we struggle with.
But now I feel like I have so much more clarity about my situation and what the appropriate response is as a wife and a Baha’i. I also feel much more empowered to take steps to make changes, without depending on anyone else to meet my needs for me.
I loved how easy it was to talk to Janna, and that she already shared and understood all of my Baha’i values. Now my husband is more interested in doing the couple’s program in some form!
The most important thing that you should know about coaching with Janna is that it’s not scary and that the financial investment is SO worth it. I know sometimes it feels difficult to spend money on intangibles– or just on ourselves– but for less than the cost of a weekly grocery run, I feel like I’ve made a big step forward in my life and marriage.Anna
Janna is attentive, kind, thoughtful, gives intelligent feedback and is a joyful being. She is a wonderful and compassionate coach and has the tools to help you keep moving forward!Alba Sancho (Ithaca, NY)
Janna is really skilled at pushing through the B.S. and getting straight to the issues. I got more out of our 4 sessions than I did from several months of seeing different therapists in the past. She is a wonderful communicator and articulates her thoughts and questions very well. She is clearly gifted at this.Life Coaching Client
In each session you will get:
A simple, practical action or tool to use during the week.
Follow-up email support
Increased understanding about your husband’s motivations (this is the biggest game changer!).
An attentive, listening ear from someone who just gets it
Continued progress forward: coaching is all about where you want to go and how to get there.
Working with Janna was a life saver. I was in a very dark place in my life and marriage, feeling out of control, having a really difficult time expressing my feelings without powerful anger.
The thing that people need to understand is that Janna is very sweet and gentle, very validating, she heard me and felt the feelings I was experienced. She empowered me to become the driving force of positive change in my life. And I will be forever grateful for this unique experience and will continue to benefit from it, hopefully, for the rest of my life.S.S. (Georgetown)
Anyone considering working with Janna should know that the Faith is at the centre of everything! That she combines brilliantly the qualities of being frank AND loving as Abdu’l Baha suggests for the process of consultation.
Janna is a wonderful coach and I loved every minute of it – even the tough bits.Shirin (Athens)
Here are some practical examples of what you might need support with:
How to stop feeling so pressured to have sex and discover what you really want
How to ask for that emotional intimacy that you are craving
How to stop feeling so smothered (or abandoned)
How to get on the same team about parenting or household management
How to talk to him about his parents (or yours)
How to talk about money without an explosive fight!
How to relax and have more fun together
How to get him onboard with your big dreams
How to increase spiritual closeness and serve together
And if we haven’t met yet…
My name is Janna Denton-Howes and I have a slightly interesting story when it comes to marriage. To the shock of friends and family (not my parents or in-laws thankfully because they had to give us permission!), I got married at the age of 17 – a few months before graduating from high school.
Yes, that’s right- I took my husband to prom.
And so began the journey of the highs and lows (really, really lows sometimes) of marriage. We’ve fought very hard to create the amazing relationship we have today and I can personally testify to the transformational power of education and accompaniment.
We live on beautiful Vancouver Island in Canada- surrounded by ocean and forests. Our favorite family activity is having fires on the beach (which, if you follow me on facebook– you’ll know!)
My daughters are 7 and 8 years old and couldn’t be more different and unique. My husband is a Civil Engineer- who gets to come home for lunch sometimes 🙂
I was raised in a Baha’i family and, in fact- I’m 4th generation!
I know that you are a busy Baha’i women and you might feel unable to fit another thing into your schedule, but I just want to say one thing.
Don’t let this go on any longer.
Because the longer you put off going for what you REALLY desire in your marriage, the more resentment and unhappiness builds in your heart.
And then you get to a place where you just really don’t care anymore.
Which is really not a good place to be.
So, my dearest, invest in yourself.
Take control of the destiny of your marriage and make it the happiest, most joyful and connected relationship possible.
And I KNOW it is in your hands because this is exactly what I did.
Although now my husband is he biggest believer in marriage coaching, he wasn’t always that way. So I had to do what you are doing now.
I’ve been in your shoes.
But I also know what it’s like to be in the most loving, compassionate, intimate, fun and joyful marriage. And I want that for you too.
I really look forward to connecting with you soon!